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STOP! LOOK! LISTEN! Revelation, Transformation, Metamorphosis

November 19, 2009 by omitunde  
Filed under Kitchen Table Wisdom


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We all get angry or upset from time to time. Your trigger response to upset can be damaging your health and you may not be aware of it.

Remember the words to the old school tune that went like this, “Your alone all the time, does it ever puzzle you, do you ask why you seem to fall in love and out again, do you ever really love or just pretend, it’s never too late, too late to Stop! Look! Listen to your heart and what it’s saying.”

Well this works in every instance of your life every moment of everyday when the day is leading off a negative direction, you are cranky and your tolerance for drama is nonexistent. A chain of events can start with one incident and your response to it. Once you get and set and go off there is no turning back, you start looking through the lens of negativity at everything, as you move through the moment additional baggage is collected along the way.

It all happens so fast, you begin to sweat, your heart is pumping faster and now something chemical is going on in your body. You reach for caffeine, sugar, or a tobacco because your body is screaming for it.

Stop! Look! Listen! Again now Breathe! Again and again for as long as to takes to gain your composure before you lose your lose your job or damage your relationships maybe hurt someone’s feelings. You know you don’t want to be this way – it is a cycle you have been stuck in for a long time and now it threatens your health.

It does not matter, you could be young or old, rich or old, hot or cold this is the road to ill-health. Your mind says “remember the God in you” and be kind, don’t hurt relationships that you cannot repair. Be kind to yourself and put things into perspective.

Before you abuse yourself and pick a donut, a cigarette or another soda, STOP! Realize the revelation that is in your face at this moment. YOU are in control of your response to everything in your life. You may be taking your life into your hands at this moment! This could be damage that is a “trigger to behavior that will lead you to compound health issues.

Revelation is the process of something being revealed to you – and even if you ignore it – the truth is “in your face” at the moment.

Allow yourself to be “Transformed by what the moment is teaching you, LOOK! at what you are doing to yourself. Take this moment to create a new behavior instead of going into a tailspin like a hurricane uprooting and destroying everything. Allow the punishment to fit the crime by connecting with the part of you that has reasoning and control. In the moment you feel that you cannot the control switch that turns off the anger and frustration spewing forth from you.

Pray! Laugh! Breathe! Repeat your favorite affirmation! Go into another room or outside and breathe! Get your heart rate under control! This could be a life and death situation for you because the way you deal with emotion and the upsets that show up in your life can be killing you. Make this a healing moment that can resolve these upsets so they do not continue to be a repeat performance of the same thing over and over again.

The LISTEN! part means to experience a metamorphosis to a new state of mind. This profound moment of change will be the new behavior you will develop and reduce the damage to you biologically speaking.

It will work if you give it a chance to change how you have programmed yourself to react instead of respond gently to life’s challenges. Remember the acronym “RTM” and you can stop the triggers that may be damaging your health.

Give it a try! You will begin to feel better and have more energy for the things that really matter. I am a living testimony of “RTM” because I love myself and I love my life so I want to be around to enjoy it. I am not ready to be “sick” and “disabled” by my own behavior. If you want your life to work and to feel good everyday make a new choice to STOP! LOOK! AND LISTEN!

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